Are You with the ONE?!

Interesting article (see link below). It's a good checklist, but it may not be the case for everyone. Take a look and share your thoughts in the comments section.

http://hellogiggles.com/10-signs-youre-person-marry/#read

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Sometimes you see more when your eyes are closed. #Meditate

When Did You Know?

It's important to remember when and why you first fell in love. It's these memories that serve as the foundation for a relationship and can help during the inevitably rough times ahead.

Take a look at these stories of husbands sharing when they knew their wives were the ones. Share your own stories in the comment section.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5754710?utm_hp_ref=tw

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A lot can be said in silence. Listen carefully!

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You can't control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them. So before you spend too much time dwelling on something, take a minute to put the situation in perspective. ~ Travis Bradberry, Ph.D.

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Love and respect are both 2-way streets in a relationship (romantic, familial, platonic, business, etc.). Once one of them becomes 1-way, that relationship is set for a dead end.

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The peaks wouldn't feel as good if it weren't for the valleys.

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Happiness can be found in the simplest of things.

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Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines. ~ Robert H. Schuller

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Be careful in how you choose to say things. The manner in which something is said is just as important as what is being said itself.

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We must get in the habit of giving our loved ones their flowers while they are still able to smell and enjoy them.

Married and Still Dating

A few months ago I stumbled upon an article online that was titled I'm Dating Someone Even Though I'm Married. Naturally my interest was peaked and I wanted to see what this piece was all about. What was the author going to say? How can someone be married and still date?


I read the article and it was quickly clear to see that the individual the married author spoke of dating was in fact his wife. What a clever title, I thought. It definitely does the job of sparking the reader's interest and drawing them in.


As I read the article I couldn't help but agree with the message that was being conveyed. Just because you are married, doesn't mean that you and your spouse should cease dating. The dating (or courting as some may say) period is a time of growth and learning about one another as the author so eloquently puts it. In my opinion, marriage is just a continuation of courting, a sequel if I may. What was done during the dating period need not stop, but be enhanced. Granted, after your nuptials there may be many factors that can come into play and can cause dating to be difficult (shared bills, work schedules, children, etc.), but it is very important to set aside some "US" time with each other to remind yourselves of why you fell in love and fall in love all over again.


What are your thoughts?

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Learn to humble yourself, before life does it for you.

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Respect is something earned and/or demanded, but there is no tenure attached to it. Meaning, the same thing(s) an individual did to gain respect must be continued in order to retain it.

Mental Health in the Black/African American Community

There has long been a stigma attached to the idea of therapy and seeking help for improved mental health in the black community. I personally have experienced the labels that goes along with the mental health discussion among those of African descent. Phrases like, "I don't need to see a therapist, I'm not crazy!" and "No therapists needed here, I'll just take it to God in prayer" are often heard.


Take a look at the article below and share some of your own personal thoughts as well as the stigmas you may have heard attached to mental/therapy from your respective ethnic group.

Mental Health in the Black Community           

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Thank you for visiting Reflections with Jay. This blog will run the gamut. Topics from mental health, relationships (both familial and romantic), to my personal feelings/views on current, past and/or future events will be discussed. My personal thoughts on various subjects as well as every day occurrences will be shared, but subscribers are strongly encouraged to post questions and/or leave comments (anonymously if you prefer) on a number of subjects that will be discussed. From issues at home with family members or a significant other to interpersonal problems with close friends or coworkers. We will touch on them all. Any suggestions on what you would like to see on this page are welcomed and will be seriously considered. Just send your thoughts to me at JeremyJJonesLMFT@gmail.com. This will serve as an open forum and I look forward to hearing from you all.








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