Moving on

You cannot move forward while simultaneously looking back. You'll trip up that way. Keep your eyes on the prize/goals ahead and push forward.

Perspective

Perspective is important. It's the difference between seeing something as a setback or a setup. Try reframing your thoughts and seeing things from a different perspective.

Be the change...

If you want change, be the change. Get up. Get out. Get going!

Accountability & Acceptance

"The only way to win the blame game is not to play. You keep trying to be right there's only going to be a matter of time before you get left.

~ Dr. Ish (Marriage Boot Camp)

Overcome

"Never reduce your life to the event you're facing right now."
 ~ Unknown

Free Yourself

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you."

~ Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness...

Fact! Holding on to anger/a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to be harmed. Follow Elsa and the rest of the gang from Frozen and #LetItGo!

Life's Short...

Life is too short to dwell on the past. No regrets, just lessons learned. Do not allow your past to effect your present and subsequently dim the light of your future. #PushForward!

Random Reflections

Sarcasm is a language that not everyone is fluent in which could lead to some things being lost in translation and unnecessary strife. Being straightforward is the best way to go!

Marriage is...

Marriage like anything is requires work, but then again anything that's worth something usually does. When both partners are able to identify a common goal and work towards it collaboratively, the work becomes a little easier. Although it may become easier as time progresses, remember that the work never ends. KEEP WORKING!

Random Reflections - Black History Month Edition

"Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them." ~ James Baldwin

Children learn what they live. Be a great example!

Random Reflections

"You will never fail until you quit." Russell Simmons #NeverGiveUp!!!

Random Reflections

Do not dwell so much on the past that you forget to live in the present and put your future in jeopardy. #LookForward

Random Reflections

There's a reason why your windshield is so much bigger than your rear view mirror. Looking back is important for a glance and to make sure things are clear, but if you look back for too long you may miss the bigger picture ahead of you. #LookForward!

Random Reflections

A conversation or discussion that is not fruitful or beneficial to all parties involved in some way is not worth having.

The 7Rs to De-stressing

Remove yourself from the situation causing you stress

Breath deeply and try to Relax.

Reflect on what brought you to this place.

Reconnect with the thing or person (this could be self) you love most.

Re-energize yourself (or the relationship) while you are away from the stressor.

Release that stressor. Holding on to things does more harm to you than good.

Finally, pick yourself back up and work your way through it and Recover.

Remove, Relax, Reflect, Reconnect, Re-energize, Release, and Recover.

Random Reflections

Getting nervous is not bad. It is when nervous gets you that things may become difficult. Take some deep breaths, try visualizing your "happy place", and take back control. It may sound easier said than done, but it is not impossible. Give it a shot. What do you have to lose, besides those nervous feelings, of course?

Take a look at this DIY Mindfulness Jar that I found on BuzzFeed. The glitter represents your thoughts and emotions. As the glitter settles and you sit still, notice your breath and your thoughts settling down, too.

Marriage is...

Marriage is the only sentence where good behavior gets you more time. #Life

Marriage is...

Marriage is a partnership. I like to think of marriage as a merger between two companies with each individual being a CEO. Like a business merger, a marriage requires partners to sit down and discuss the terms of the newly formed partnership. Without this meeting the business cannot strive and hit their bottom line. So communication in a marriage is essential in order for success.

Random Reflections

A smart individual learns from their mistakes, but a wise individual learns from the mistakes of others.